What has allegedly happened to a young woman today is not about a man ruining his career; it’s about the women who has been forced to suffer horrific sexual, mental and physical violence.
I would say something along the lines of “words cannot describe how shocked I am about the news…” etc., however, domestic abuse is quite prevalent within UK society, and unfortunately this individual is one of many women around the country who suffer domestic abuse daily.
Of all crimes recorded by the police in the year ending March 2021, 18% were domestic abuse-related, according to the Office of Naitonal Statistics. This was an increase of three percentage points compared with 15% the previous year.
I cannot even begin to imagine the mental and physical pain and suffering that this woman has had to endure over the course of this alleged abuse. I would say I hope she is alright, but I don’t feel that’s appropriate.
For those of you that do not know, I study a degree in Psychology. Within this course, I have studied and researched the mental effects that domestic abuse can have on someone who suffers it; male, female, or otherwise. It can result in immense psychologial tourture, bouts of depressive episodes and, in some cases, victims end up being convinced that they deserve the abuse. It’s horrifying, and often understated.
To the victim in this case, and any other victims, please know that you are not alone. I truely hope that all the relevant institutions involved offer you all the facilities and help you need to allow to you heal.
Violence against women is an act of cowardice.
I support you. We support you. Speaking out about suffering domestic abuse is an incredibly brave thing to do, and when it involves a person of such a high profile, speaking out can be even harder. I applaud your bravery and pray that you will make it out of this situation and never have to suffer anything as terrifying and unjust as this again.
For anyone who is currently suffering or has preivously suffered from domestic violence, the NHS have a web page dedicated to aiding you in finding the help you need, which can be viewed here.
For those who think they may be suffering from domestic abuse but cannot be sure, there are some common signs, including:
- Belittling you, or put you down
- Blaming you for the abuse or arguments
- Isolating you from your family, friends, and work
- Monitoring spending, social media posts and clothes
- Threats and intimidation
- Any form of physical abuse (punching, slapping, throwing objects at you)
- Any form of sexual abuse, however minor it may seem
- Any other actions that make you feel afraid/scared of your partner
If you feel that you are suffering from domestic abuse, please do not heasitate to contact either the police or one of the following helplines below.
If you feel someone you know is suffering domestic abuse, be smart about it. Often people who are suffering from domestic abuse initially deny it out of fear of their partner. However, try and help them as best you can while staying fully aware of their safety, and once it is possible to do so, report an incident to the police or national helpline.
One final point I would like to make is that the fact that it has to take immense courage to be able to speak out against an abusive partner is sad and telling enough in itself. There is no doubt in my mind when I say men who beat their partners up, target, and harass women are vile. Helplines and aid for those who have suffered domestic abuse are vital in society, but more needs to be done to prevent domestic abuse from happening in the first place.
I think that education is key in solving issues such as domestic violence.